Autism Acceptance Month: Celebrating Your Autistic Toddler’s Unique Traits

April is Autism Acceptance Month, a time to shift the focus from “fixing” to understanding and embracing the individual journey of your child. If you’re a parent of an autistic toddler, you know that each day brings new discoveries and challenges. Autistic toddlers are naturally curious, energetic, and expressive—but they may approach the world in their own distinct way. This month, let’s focus on supporting your child’s development while recognizing and celebrating their unique traits.

Alongside this, it’s essential to connect with others and access the right resources. Below are some support groups and organizations that can guide you on this journey.

There’s No One Right Way to Toddler

You’ve probably noticed that your toddler doesn’t follow the typical milestones in the same way others might. Perhaps they line up toys instead of pretending to feed them, or they enjoy textures and movement over songs and words. Maybe they repeat a phrase from a favorite show or rock back and forth when seeking comfort.

These behaviors aren’t signs that something is wrong—they’re just the way your child is learning about and interacting with the world. Instead of comparing your toddler to others or worrying about “typical” milestones, try to embrace the uniqueness of their journey. Remember, there’s no one right way to be a toddler, and there’s no “wrong” way for your child to experience the world.

Communication Doesn’t Have to Be Verbal

It’s common for autistic toddlers to develop language skills at a different pace. Your child might use fewer words, or perhaps they communicate in other ways—by pointing, bringing you objects, or using sounds to express themselves.

These alternative methods of communication are just as valid as spoken language. The key is to stay engaged and responsive, whether your child is using words or not. When you recognize their way of communicating, you’re building a foundation for connection and future growth.

Resources for Communication Support:

• Sojorne – Offers personalized support for families to navigate autism and sensory-related challenges through expert-led guidance and a caring community.

Remember, communication is about understanding each other, not about waiting for a specific form of language. Your response to their cues helps build trust and encourages more ways for them to express their needs.

Strong Preferences Are Not a Problem

If your toddler insists on having the same cup every morning, lines up toys in a particular order, or becomes upset when a routine changes, know that these behaviors are common among autistic children. They may provide comfort and a sense of predictability in a world that can often feel overwhelming.

These strong preferences aren’t problems to fix—they are your child’s way of creating structure and security. As a parent, it’s important to recognize that these behaviors are part of how your child processes the world. Supporting your child’s preferences helps them feel more in control and grounded.

Parent Support:

• Sojorne Gatherings – A monthly event you can attend to feel supported and heard. The next one is happening May 6, 2025. Register Here!

• Sojorne App - Even before and after these events, we have ongoing forums/support groups on the app - SojorneCare (Check it out here!)

There’s no need to fully understand why something matters to your child—just know that when you respect and accommodate their preferences, you’re providing them with stability and trust.

This Isn’t About Fixing—It’s About Learning Together

It’s natural to want your child to reach milestones, develop new skills, and overcome challenges. But it’s important to remember that your child doesn’t need to be “fixed.” They need your understanding, support, and guidance as they navigate the world in their own way.

Acceptance doesn’t mean inaction - It means taking the time to understand how your child learns and growing alongside them. Your support will help them develop the skills they need at their own pace, but it starts with respecting who they are right now

You’re Already With Them—Right Here, Right Now

This Autism Acceptance Month, take a step back and reflect on the unique qualities that make your toddler who they are. Their likes, habits, and ways of experiencing the world are not problems to solve—they are aspects of their individuality to embrace.

As a parent, you’re already walking this path with your child. You don’t need to wait for them to become someone else—you’re witnessing and supporting them every step of the way, right here, right now.

What Have You Noticed?

As a parent, you’re in the best position to notice how your toddler experiences the world. What unique traits or preferences have you observed lately? How are they communicating, learning, and growing in their own way?

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments or connect with others who are walking a similar journey. 

Let’s create a supportive community that shares experiences and insights. 

Remember, you're not alone—there are many resources and people ready to support you every step of the way.