Autism and College Decisions: Weighing Options as May 1st Approaches

May 1st—National College Decision Day—can feel like a deadline with a capital D. If you’re the parent or caregiver of an autistic teen or young adult, this season might come with a swirl of emotions: pride, anxiety, excitement… and a whole lot of questions.

Is this the right school? Are they ready? Should they start now or take more time? And what about supports—will they have what they need?

If your teen is facing the college decision crossroads, take a deep breath. It’s okay if the path doesn’t look like everyone else’s. The “right” choice is the one that works best for your child—academically, emotionally, and socially.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you navigate this big decision together.

1. There’s No One-Size-Fits-All Timeline

Some teens are ready to launch straight into college life. Others might need a gentler on-ramp—like a gap year, part-time enrollment, or starting at a local community college before transferring later.

If your young adult is still developing executive functioning or independent living skills, that’s not a reason to panic—it’s an opportunity to plan. Gap year programs like Dynamy or College Living Experience offer structured, supportive transitions that can build confidence and real-world skills.

2. Supports Matter—Ask the Right Questions

Not all colleges are created equal when it comes to disability support. Some offer basic accommodations, like extra test time or note-taking help. Others have more comprehensive autism-specific programs that provide coaching, social groups, and regular check-ins.

When comparing schools, check out:

• The disability services office website—what accommodations and services are listed?

• Autism support programs, like Sojorne's Support Groups

• Student testimonials—what do neurodivergent students say about their experience?

Reach out to program staff. Ask detailed questions. Your teen might benefit from a Zoom call or even a second campus visit with a support lens.

3. Think Beyond Academics

College is more than classes—it's roommates, laundry, cafeteria food, and managing time without your reminders. Think about what kind of environment will help your teen thrive, not just survive.

• Do they need a smaller campus with quieter dorms?

• Is it better to live at home and commute?

• Would they benefit from a school with a strong autism inclusion culture?

And if the idea of moving away feels overwhelming, that’s okay. Starting closer to home and gradually increasing independence is a completely valid choice.

4. Empower Your Teen’s Voice

This is their next chapter. Wherever possible, include your teen in the process—touring campuses, attending info sessions, writing pros and cons lists. Their insight matters, and they may surprise you with what they prioritize (hello, dining hall menus!).

It’s also okay if they’re unsure. You can remind them that no decision is forever. People transfer. Paths shift. Growth happens.

The truth is, there’s no single “right” way to do college. Whether your teen is ready to dive in, needs more prep, or chooses a totally different route—that’s all part of the journey.

💬 Is your family navigating college decisions right now? What questions or concerns are coming up for you or your teen? Drop your thoughts in the comments—we’re figuring it out together. 💛